MY FOUR WISHES FOR THE GENIE......

I am a dreamer since my childhood....Ialways read loads of fairy tales and belived in magic and dreams coming true.When I met my spouse it was almost like meeting my knight in shining armour who swept me off my feet...it was all so sudden,falling in love at the ripe age of 33 ,marrying at 34 and mother at 35....All was not well,though.my inlaws rejected me and my son both ....but I had a very supportive parental family,who were busy fighting their own demons but they stood by me through thick and thin.
     My son kabir.my beautiful son with his twinkling eyes and sparking dimples...was my most prized possession...I couldn't take my eyes off him when I first took him in my hands....for me the dream extended and I thought  like all fairy tales...it was going to be "they loved happily ever after"but here life taught me a lesson...dreams are dreams ,sometimes they do come true too ...but nothing and nobody remains happily everafter....
For two years ,I was living every moment through the eyes of my son...my in- laws were not well,so my husband was busy attending them,we were hardly meeting twice a week ,but I had no complaints...I had my son and I was basking in glory of his unravelling of various mile stones...he started speaking but his speech seized after calling "papa"...I waited and waited for him to respond to me ,the one who had sacrificed her blooming career to watch her son flourish day by day,moment by moment...some thing was wrong...he was suddenly very irritatble and was crying a lot.We took him to the Dr...She dropped the first bomb shell ,"may be he has a hearing problem"We took him for BERA TEST ....phew!!tests were normal...but a wise old woman dropped the second bomb shell"the way he cries and whines,he looks autistic"if she wudn't havebeen  a old woman,I might have slapped her....I and my husband left the place in a terrible rage..".autism",no it wasn't possible...it can't happen to our only child...I cried and cried...
Then we went to the Developmental Paeditrician...who dropped the ultimate hydrogen bomb-:"kabir is mildly autistic and hyperactive too with delayed speech n poor hand motor skills."It was as if my dreams just shattered and I was not in position to pick even a single piece...as I had to hold onto my senses and my son who was a label now.
There on, it has been a journing of labour,discoveries and various types of therapies.I and kabir are very lucky that we got very supportive therapists who were professionals as well as caring individuals who even trained me into finer parenting skills and the journey is on.....
   I have drifted a lot from the topic but let me tell you all that I have not stopped being a dreamer...as I firmly believe that "those who dare to dream,fulfill their dreams too" So,now I have four wishes to ask the proverbial "Genie" to grant my four wishes...
Firstly he should send back my husband to be with us as kabir really misses him,he is missing the  love and discipline of a father.I firmly believe boys need fathers to grow up to be a good humanbeing and a sturdy male of a decent character....when kabir wants to play sports...and he looks at me for guidance ,I am clueless as i hate sports...bt his father is into so many of them so,i am visualizing my husband and kabir playing on a big playground with all the hulla bullo,and I would be seated amongst the cheering groups,thats the least I can do:-)

Secondly,i want kabir to be accepted as equal by his peer group and people he interacts with.He is a loving,affectionate boy who refuses to accept rejection and that fuels his everyday aggression bouts which I bear....may God give me strength to train him so well into human virtues and patience that he learns to accept what he gets,but change it by his charming manners and attributes...I m wrking and I have to work very hard on this so I need countless strength and patience to keep up my cool and continue my work on kabir.I have got wonderful therapists and doctors here for him.May their support and guidance continue the same way.

Thirdly,I wish that kabir has all the facilities that we need for helping him for  his wholesome development and to help him live his life to the fullest extent.Right now kabir lacks good friends...he is living life through the eyes of his mature companions and I dont want him to lose his innocence in the process..So O' Lord please grant him some true and caring friends who can stop him from living in his make believe world.I pray that kabir is cared for all his life ,by his parents till we keep alive,his immediate family and above all ,may he have a loving circle of friends who will guide him and support him when we won't be there anymore to offer our hands to guide him. 

 And lastly, I want him to develop into a caring and honest human being who would be an asset to the society. He must be financially independent and self dependent.He shouln't change from what he is today.I love his passion for life and zest for living and his smiling affectionate gestures.I love you my son and remember its our hard work that will guide genie into fulfilling our wishes...:-)