to nirbhaya

yes I am sad...i m sad at Nirbhaya's sad demise.But I m glad too that she was relieved from all the pains that she was fighting every moment.Now it is our responsibility that she doesn't become a forgotten chapter...Cases like her are happening every day..some reported others non reported..it is our responsibility-we who are women-to strengthen our self..and to ensure that no one can overpower us...the incident shouldn't make us scared and stop us from exploring our lives.Rape is an act of dominance on the part pf perverted males who cant bear the sight of a woman loving life on her terms...and for some it is an opportunity to indulge themselves....there is no limit to this sickness which doesn't stop at any age...whether it is a 3 month old baby girl to a 70 yr old woman....
I still don't agree with those who demand death for the rapists.I believe in some very painful punishment like castration or something where they are left alive and to live the pain they caused to that young girl....fear of death is never a deterrent..else so many crimes wouldn't be happening.....what we need is to make our gals very ready to face such perverts...and yes the role n importance of strict laws is very important ofcourse......

Written by - Nalini Srivastava 
To Nirbhaya...
I am sad,
Yes I am sad.
A brave heart has died,
her struggle to live has ceased.
A young heart that had thousand dreams
dreams,aspirations and promises to keep.
What was her fault,?
just that she was a woman,
a representative of female form, She caught notice of few perverted minds.
they used her,abused her,tortured her
beyond her bearing capacity,
beyond the limits what any human can even imagine.
She was left to fight for her ragged breaths,
uncovered,unattended,crying for help.
She fought,she fought to her last breath
but she lost the battle of life.
Let us not let her battle go into waste,
let us punish the offenders
let them live the pain,she endured
let them face the shame,
let them face our wrath and hatred.
but don't give them quick death
let them suffer,let them live
let them suffer,and live the tale
the tale of their bestial torture.
let their example be there
to teach others what lies ahead,
if they tried even to let
their lecherous eyes to wander on a female,
they will repent their entire life..
Nalini Srivastava
29th dec.

The irony of being a woman

I have never regretted being a woman.Rather I am proud of being a woman,the most beautiful and gifted creation of Lord almighty.But recent happenings in India have made me think...do I still like being a woman?Do I still want to pray for getting a girl child?do i find myself safe when I go out?what kind of future I see for my 11 year old niece who is on verge of puberty.?well yes I m very upset at what happened in Delhi...at the brutal and callous treatment meted out to the girl.And then few more cases followed and many more will follow.Has some thing new happened?No.I read almost every two days,sometimes daily also of one or the other crime against girls/women.Pune which was considered to be very safe for women,a place where I had traveled a 12 km distance alone in a public bus,at 11 p.m night.,is in such a dismal position that i get to read about a 5 yr old girl being raped by a 65 year man(who is surviving on Viagra doses)with the help of the mother of the girl...can things go any worse then that....how frightening is reading about repeated rape of a minor at the hands of her brother and father...is there anyone safe today...No I don't think so.will I dare to travel alone in a public transport even after 9 p.m ...no way...
But being  scared or apprehensive is not the solution.What would I like to do...hmmm I would have loved to learn self defense tricks but martial arts will be too tough on my aching bones so I guess pepper spray will be a good choice and of course some common precautions and my instinct.But I am more concerned about my neice and young girls,they should be definitely trained  into methods of self defense....and self reliability.....
Then of course we need strictest and quick punishments to the rapists and the teasers.I firmly believe that justice delayed is justice denied.and quick n speedy justice will boost morale of the victims and re-instill lost faith in judiciary.We need mass movement not the occasional furor..We need sensitization of masses and more strict laws.We need to work for awakening of women and girls,girl education and rise in respect of women and all this means complete overhaul of our patriarchal society.Can we do it?We can provided we keep consistent efforts....and will to do something,anything,and everything that we can at our individual level,as every attempt,effort counts.